Ways I’ve Helped My ADD Daughter to Excel

Engaging a child with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) can be a difficult task at times. Some days seem to be easier than others, but it all boils down to my own motivation to keep her on task. Although you can be faced with a great amount of frustration, you need to realize that the child is honestly doing their best. For some parents, this can be quite difficult at times. You just need to realize that you’re not going to be able to force them to change their genetic makeup and you need to roll with the punches.

1. Reading More – As my daughter loves everything dinosaur related, I’ve used this hobby to engage her to accomplish a lot of tasks. Although she doesn’t have much motivation to read some materials, she is always eager to read if it has to do with her reptilian “friends.” This has made a great impact in her reading at school in general. Although the teacher still has a problem getting her to read requested materials, my young daughter puts a great deal of effort into her ever growing collection of dinosaur books.

2. Repetitive Repeats – One way I have been able to get her to focus on a task is by having her repeat my instructions back to me. If she gets it wrong, I give her the instructions again asking her to repeat what I just said. This way, she has to think about what it is I want her to do in order for her to relay it back to me. This has worked exceptionally well, and I’ve found that it is much easier to repeat myself in this manner over the frustration of dealing with miscommunication later on.

3. Eliminating Distractions – Limiting distractions when she is learning has made a vast improvement in how well she retains knowledge. Even in school, her teacher tells me of how my daughter doesn’t seem to focus well in the group of children within an entire class, but she can easily do what needs to be done if she is alone or in a much smaller group. I’ve found this to be true within the home as well. When I am helping her with homework or asking her to complete a task, all music and television needs to be off momentarily. Having her focus on my eyes while I speak to her also help her to remain focused.

4. Scheduling – Being on a set daily schedule has been greatly beneficial for my daughter. Although the first few weeks were a bit of a rocky start, she has adapted and has made great progress keeping to it for day-to-day requirements. However, this required a great deal of vigilance on my part. You can’t just make a schedule and expect an ADD child to follow it from the beginning. There are times where I have to stop and remind her what she is supposed to be doing, but those moments are getting fewer and fewer as time goes on. I’ve also had to rearrange my schedule a bit in order to keep her on task, but it’s a small price to pay to help my daughter take the first steps to being successful in life.

While raising an ADD daughter has been frustrating at times, she has been our sunlight when things seem to get dark. Her outlook on life is comical and she is always in a perky mood. No matter how much life tends to beat me up, I can always rely on her to be the one to pick me up with a hug and an, “I love you.”

Author Bio:

Elizabeth Reed is a freelance writer and a resident blogger at Liveinnanny.org. She particularly enjoys writing about parenting, childcare, health and wellness. In addition, she is an expert consultant on issues related to household management and kids.


She is our bundle of joy and has the most pleasant of demeanor regardless of the situation. However, she is truly the definition of Attention Deficit Disorder. It’s rough for a parent to watch as their child simply doesn’t pay enough attention to detail and struggles to do the most simplistic of chores. She has to spend time in a special room at school in order to learn some of the most basic of tasks because she can’t keep focused in a regular classroom. After explaining the letter “W” to her five consecutive times, she will still assume it’s various letters other that “W.” It can be frustrating to say the least. However, we’ve been able to make strides in her development by creating a strict routine to help her stay focused. How does this help our little girl?

1. Repetitive Learning – Although she has a “varying level of ADD,” according to the school counselors, she is still capable of learning. It just takes her a little longer than the average child. In order to facilitate greater understanding of what needs to be done, we adhere to a strict daily routine that is followed to the letter. By repeating the same task over and over, she grasps the concept of what needs to be done and has made a great improvement overall in school and at home.

2. Uninterrupted – As we know that she is easily distracted by some of the smallest of objects, her schedule for the day keeps her away from other diversions. For instance, the small desk she uses for reading and homework is in her room and away from the diversions of television and other people. While I thought that her toys would have been an equal distraction, I found that she stays on task much better when she is alone as I periodically check on her.

3. Planning the Day – As we develop her schedule with her own input, we are teaching her the value of organizing time. She knows that in order to watch television at five o’clock, she needs her homework done by then. We’ve actually began to notice that she keeps track of her time quite well lately. This has been greatly beneficial to helping her retain knowledge of how to tell time. Since fun time is something she anticipates, the five on the clock has been made important.

4. Putting Things Away – One of our regular routines is placing objects back where they need to be. Every time an item is used regardless of its purpose, it needs to be put back. Although this aspect of the routine did take a great deal of time for her to accept, she now is in the habit of putting everything away. This has made additional impacts in how she interacts in the classroom according to her teacher. She is considerate and knows that stuff needs to be put away in order to find them later.

A stable and regular routine over the course of the past year has made a vast improvement in a great deal of her interactions. Although it can be difficult to keep her mind focused on random communications or instances she’s never experienced before, the projects and tasks that are important to her development are manageable and improving. While I am sure we’ll have to adapt as the years go on, the vast strides she has made this past year make the time worth the investment.

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This post is contributed by Linda Bailey from housekeeping.org. She is a Texas-based writer who loves to write on the topics of housekeeping, green living, home décor, and more. She welcomes your comments which can be sent to b.lindahousekeeping @ gmail.com.